Use any opportunity for growh, even if
the progress is slightest possible
For most people happiness is either
anticipation of good future or deliverance from bad past, and only for a few happiness
is a sense of full responsibility for the present.
We have considered a lot of recommendations
on rekindling relationships but most of them work in long-term perspective.
What can you do today to make your relationship with your partner better?
According to the well-known financial
consultant, writer and businessman, Bodo Schaefer, weíve got only 72 hours to
begin implementing our ideas, if we do not want these ideas to have been sunk
into oblivion. In other words, if you donít set about taking an appropriate
action within the next 72 hours then with the probability of 99.9% you will
never start moving towards your goal. So never put off till today what you can
do right now!
Now, here are a few recommendations for the
possible actions to be taken by you right now not losing any moment:
1. Make a compliment to your partner. The
need to be highly valued and appreciated greatly attracts us to those who pay
us compliments in the areas meaningful to us. You may get a particularly strong
effect when you praise your partner in front of other people.
2. Find something at which you will be able to
laugh together. Laughter helps us to cope with stress and woes of our
rigorous daily routine. Sense of humor is one of the main tools to overcome
problems in relationships.
3. Invite your partner to spend time together.
You may do it either at home or outside, actively or relaxed, merrily or
intellectually. No matter how you spend your time, if you are doing something
together you breathe new life into your relationship.
4. Smile more often. A very simple way to
make interaction with your partner more positive is to smile more. Starting
from now try to start every dialogue with him/her from a smile.
5. Touch your partner. For human beings
physical contact is extremely important. If you touch you partner more than 10
times a day it makes your relationship healthier.
6. Tell your partner whatís worrying you. If
you hide inside the things that disturb you then your anger and frustration may
greatly affect the relationship. Instead, you should always tell your partner
about these feelings but without any notes of blame.
7. Make the relationship rescue schedule with
exact actions and deadlines. If you are able to engage your partner in mutual
work on relationship this schedule may be even produced in form of a contract
signed by both parties indicating their roles and setting check points, which
will help to estimate how you approach your goals.
8. Write a list of the things that you like in
your partner. Thus, you can recover many of the feelings that you had in
the initial stages of your relationship. You again will pay attention to
exactly those qualities of your partner that you admired before rather than
those that cause your irritation. There are no ideal people and you have to
learn to see a half-full glass rather a half-empty one.
9. Invent a tradition for your family.
This thing is more typical for one families than the other. Do not hesitate to
think up those actions that will help you to unite with your partner and that
you can repeat regularly. When you are ready take the opportunity to inform
him/her about your idea. Suggest your partner to introduce a new tradition in
your relationship. Sometimes a tradition plays a crucial role in saving
relationship since it helps people to start an open communication even in the
most difficult situations.
10. Do what your partner has been waiting you
to do for a long time. Only you two know about it and nobody else. Is may
be something that your partner has been asking you to do for a long time but
you havenít managed to realize it due to some stupid reasons like laziness or fear
to change the course of your habitual thoughts and actions. Maybe it's high
time to make an effort and do something you've never done before, isnít it?
If you apply at least some of these
recommendations within the next 72 hours I am sure youíll start feeling the
positive changes in the psychological atmosphere of your family. You will get a
portion of enthusiasm and drive, which will inspire you for the new
accomplishments. But sooner or later you will again be affected by laziness, to
overcome which you need to write a long-term plan. I suggest that you start
with weekly plan for the next year where youíll reflect the things you are
going to do every week in order to improve your relationship.